On Love— again???

Define a passion,
And you will kill it

How does one describe love is one of the fundamental questions of creation. Arguable, love is one of the cornerstones in the architecture of life in this universe. Remove it – and the whole structure would collapse in less than one life span. However, it is a very broad term and attempting to provide an accurate definition alone would take a considerable amount of time. A more convenient way of interpreting it might be to systemise it through categorisation. To my best knowledge, the 3 common components are: Physical Love, Technical Love and Spiritual Love.
Physical Love is inherent in our physiology, and is enacted by hormones. The selection of the love subject is most probably based on the combination of working of all feelings, senses, as well as personal experience – it is a result of both subconscious intuition and conscious choice. However, once enacted it is mostly unconditional, but can in principle be overshadowed by a stronger affection, and fades away over time. Physical Love, creates a strong emotional attachment to the subject, is common to most people, but may be more pronounced in more sensitive people.

The Technical Love resembles Physical in many ways; however, it has completely different bases. Based on norms of behaviour, traditions, conventions and social norms, it represents ideas on what love should be and attempts to imitate love behaviour. Token gifts, flowers, casual kisses, ending sentences like “love you!” and systematic sex are all examples of Technical Love. Such acts are meant to convince oneself and others in the presence of love and brings satisfaction of “doing things the right way”. Such token love is wide spread, but tends to be stronger when physical love is weak.

Finally, Spiritual Love is a much more generalised concept. They are combinations of affections, unique to every individual, that result from the very way in which an individual defines him/herself and the surrounding environment. Such affections rise from individual’s upbringing, background, education, parents, philosophy, believes and may more. As a result the subjects of love could be anything. However, because of the way our mindsets are made, because it is easier to address one subject than many, we tend to focus our affections on one or few people. Perhaps it is for this reason, why it is so important for children to have parents – so they could focus their love and attention. Without parents children find it difficult to express their feelings, which leads to confusion and loss. For an adult such focal points are often: family, God, Nature, a distinguished figure, political ideal, siblings or a partner. An “ideal partner” in this context would be a person that represents all the qualities that you are affected to.

In most cases people are faced with different combinations of all 3 components. This could be illustrated as a triangle paradigm.


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