Yesterday Evening I had a chat with a friend who has a common issue like many others , about forgetting the past and let it go. It is natural. People find it hard to let things go. While for some it may just take a few minutes or even a few seconds to let things go while for some it may take months – years even.
It is funny how a simple emotion “love” can cling onto your heart so strong that one forgets about all other things in life apart from his/her affection for the loved one.
People are not to be blamed for their situation at all, nobody can be questioned as to why did they fall into such a situation or what lead them to this day. It all happens, and it happens for the best.
Breaking up can be very healthy , and mutual , again it all depends on both people how well they handle the situation. If one of the mates is more emotional than the other, this leads to a state where the other person is left in a state whereby he does not know what to do.
There is no rulebook or a Guide to a healthy break up , no book an teach you how to overcome a breakup , it’s all up to you , how you train your mind to “FORGET” & “Forgive”
This may sound funny to most of you , but the key element of a breakup likes in Forgiveness more than the Forgetting factor. One needs to forgive first of all himself/herself of hurting themselves and their so to become “EX”, to train their heart to forgive the other person & after that , just be “IRONMAN” or “IRONWOMAN” as i term. You have to let it all go.
This does sound rude, but unless you do not let it all go away, nothing changes. you will keep looking at those old memories and fragments of your haunting past which will keep you depressed for a long time, and in some extreme cases, it even leads to suicide.
So remember to Forgive & Forget … Move on! 🙂