If you want to go far in life, it’s VITAL that you surround yourself with people who love you

Will Smith said it best: “You can tell how far in life you’ll go by the 5 people you spend the most amount of time with.” I remember the first time I heard this quote it totally rearranged my whole brain. I took a look around me and – BOY – did I see that some changes had to be made!

If you want to go far in life, it’s VITAL that you surround yourself with people who love you, people who are looking out for your best interests and people who want you to win. Also – and PLEASE HEAR ME – when taking advice, not everyone’s advice is equal – please, PLEASE take advice from people who HAVE what YOU WANT.

You wouldn’t ask a plumber how to treat your cold and likewise you shouldn’t ask people who haven’t accomplished – how to accomplish. There may be PLENTY of well-meaning people in your life who are giving you horrible advice.

It could be their own limiting beliefs playing out, it could be that they want you to live a safe life and that taking risks is equivalent to possible failure, who knows, but believe me when I say that you don’t want to take advice from “guessers”. Guessers are those people who haven’t accomplished something that you are asking for advice about. Since they don’t know, all they can really do is guess.

If you want to start a business, get advice from SUCCESSFUL business people in your field. If you want LOVE advice, get advice from someone who has an amazing relationship (not the closed down person with a chip on their shoulder).

Who you choose to surround yourself with and take advice from is a huge factor in how successful you will become.

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The darkest Moment is Before the Dawn

Push past the point at which you want to give up. The darkest moment is before the dawn. You cannot break through to a new life if you are not willing to fully commit to your outcome.

See all that happens as happening for your best interest. Once you have asked for something it shall be yours, and so will all the blocks that currently exist that are in the way of what you want. These blocks are not there to make you stop, but to make you stronger, wiser and better able to navigate the challenges of life.

Keep the desire burning strong within you to achieve your goal. Desire is the predecessor of manifestation. Then throw yourself into action. Throw yourself into your dream’s pursuit. The darkness will come… and it is at THAT moment that you will shine brightest – FROM WITHIN.

Clarity

In life there are a some very fundamental traits that it takes to be a success. Love, heart, persistence, patience, passion, faith and so on. Today, I want to talk about CLARITY.

So how does one get clarity?

Well, if you are clear about what you want, it makes the filtering and choosing process much easier. If you are clear about what you want with people from the beginning it makes for much better partnerships and relationships. And if you are clear about what you want, it also makes it much easier to walk away from situations that are in alignment with what you want.

So as I have been sorting through the different business deals, investor potentials and the like, it’s been very important to get clarity and make sure that I am on the same page as the other people involved. This has been scary because so much hangs in the balance, but at the end of the day, no matter how much money or opportunity weighs in the balance, if both parties aren’t headed in the same direction then it won’t matter.

Getting clarity about what you want and mean helps you attract the right people, place and circumstances. It also helps you say NO to the wrong ones.
I’d love for all of us to get clarity today. Clarity about what we want, what we mean, what we need and then have the courage to express that and NOT settle.

The Right Person Will Love you for Who You Are

The right person will Love you for who you are, as you are. No change needed. No extra parts wanted. Nothing to be taken away, they will just Love you for you.

Can we have the courage to let this kind of love in? Do we feel as if we are worth it? Many have written in saying – NO – to this statement. We don’t have the courage to let someone love us this way because we do not have the courage to love ourselves this way.

So today, I would like to invite us to practice radical self-love. Love your love handles, love your tallness, love your shortness, love your flaws, love your imperfections, love your quirks, love your grey hair, love your no hair, love your pimples, love your creases, love your everything.

It may not seem realistic to you, but this is the way you are Loved by The Uni-verse, too.

You are worthy of this kind of love, from yourself and from others.

It’s scary to let ourselves be loved this way because we have to let go of the limiting beliefs that have been holding us back. We have to step into a new awareness of ourselves and face the pain of growth.

It’s worth it.

Radically loving ourselves means accepting only the best and leaving behind the rest. Not because we are selfish or judgmental, but because we have become discerning enough to know what and who is good for us and what and who isn’t.

So, if you were going to radically love yourself today, who would you let go of, who would you invite in, what would you start saying to yourself and what would you start saying to others?

We all are worth more thank what we think of ourselves to be.

Have Faith You Always Get What you Ask For

Plain and simple, we get what we ask for.

Not just with our words, but also with our actions. In fact, our actions will show us what we are asking for far more than our words. We only take action on what we truly believe, so if we want to see what we are really asking for, let us look towards our actions.

If you say you want to lose weight, but your actions are to eat high calorie food and stay inactive, you aren’t really asking for health.

If you say you have faith but your actions are faithless, then you don’t really have faith.

If you say you love someone and your actions are unloving, then you don’t really love that person.

Let us be mindful of our actions.

The precursor to action is thought. Sometimes it can be VERY hard to be aware of what we are actually thinking, especially because many of our actions come from unconscious thoughts. If we want to tap into what’s really running us, but are having a hard time, let us see what actions we are taking.

We want love, but we run away when it shows up. There is a misalignment there of desire and thought.

We want weight loss and a healthy body, but we don’t get off our ass and exercise. There is a misalignment there, too.

In this literal Uni-verse, we can LITERALLY create (from the inside out) any type of experience we wish to choose. It is when our desires, our thoughts and our actions are in alignment that this kind of life begins to emerge.

The seed of a desire for something greater lives within all of us, but our lack of action prevents that kind of life from unfolding.

Imagine if a farmer had seeds and land to plant his seeds, but doubted that the seeds would grow if he planted them. So if this doubt were strong enough, the seeds would never get planted. Or, they get planted, but then the farmer can be too impatient and dig up the seeds the next day or the next week because the crop hasn’t come yet.

The farmer still has no harvest. Then a second farmer comes by at harvest time with a full crop of harvest, and the first farmer gets jealous and angry at the second farmer for having abundance. The first farmer may blame The Uni-verse or say, “People like me aren’t supposed to have this harvest,” but in reality, it is the farmer’s own doubt and impatience that prevents him from reaping his harvest.

We are many times like the first farmer. Our seeds are our desires. Our fields are our daily actions. We must plant our desires in actions and then be patient. If weeds of doubt creep in, we must clear them out. And in perfect time we will be able to harvest the fruit of our faith.

This is how life is. We need to nurture the fertile soil of our actions with faith and patience.

So, today, are you not getting what you want? Look at your desires. Look at your actions. Where is there a disconnect? How can you adjust your actions to sync up with your desires? And, if that feels weird, how can you change your MENTAL habits to allow yourself to take the proper action that is in alignment with your desires?

The answers to the lack you may be temporarily experiencing is all within you. Show up, let go and trust The Uni-verse one day at a time. Get your desires, thoughts and actions in alignment and then let your patience and faith shower down on the fertile soil of your actions.

Your harvest WILL come.

Community is Everything

If you want to see a preview of your future, look to who you are hanging out with. This isn’t some moral statement about your peer group, it’s more of a vibrational or elevational statement.

You see, we live in a literal Uni-verse.

That means that we become what we think and what we think is greatly determined by who we spend the most amount of time with.

Do you spend time with people who are constantly trashing your dreams? If so, then after time, you begin to believe their doubt and their fear; not because their doubt and fear are true, but because we are creatures of habit and our subconscious mind begins to absorb what we hear, especially the feedback from people we love and spend a lot of time with. And if you start to believe their doubt, then soon you will begin to take action from that belief in doubt and BAM – the manifestation of the belief of doubt becomes real. Not because it’s true, but because the belief of doubt became your dominant thought pattern and that thought pattern influenced your actions and your actions produced the outcome.

The outcome of our lives begins within us. If we water our dreams with doubt, then we think doubtful thoughts, take doubtful action and our lives become a living testament and proof of our belief. Then, what many people do is take this “proof” and use it to further justify their initial belief. But you see, what they’re missing this whole time is the fact that their initial thoughts of doubt is what created the outcome of doubt. They unknowingly participate in their own demise.

But, this can be prevented by hanging with the proper community of people. Let us hang with people who uplift us, who encourage us towards our dreams and who challenge our thought patterns. Let us not surround ourselves with people who always agree with us, but rather people who support our growth by challenging our beliefs and helping us break through to new mental and spiritual ground so that our lives may be enriched as a by-product.

Look around. Who are you spending time with? And more importantly, who are you believing? If you have a dream, do you believe people who are living their dreams and thus know the TRUTH about what’s possible, or do you take advice from people who aren’t living their dreams and thus will tell you it’s not possible.

Who you spend time with and who you believe is a major factor that will determine whether you are successful or not. Our aim should be to hang with people who are loving, who believe in us, who challenge us to go to the next level and who inspire us. Life is far too short to hang with people who are always negative and who want you to stay bitter and pissed off like them. It takes a lot of humility to admit when we’re wrong and to grow past our limiting beliefs. Let’s surround ourselves with people who support our growth, not necessarily the way we want, but most certainly the way we need.

So the final question is Who are you spending time with?

Love yourself dearly , completely

Love is complete. Your soul mate doesn’t “complete you” – your soul mate is a reflection of you. Be whole, not a half.

So many people run around looking for someone “to complete them.”

But the thing is, everyone is a fallible human being, so no one can complete you and ever live up to your expectations.

That is why it is so important to keep our eyes on The Uni-verse and Its Love for us. The Love of The Uni-verse never changes. Other people change, other people mess up, but The Uni-verse is constantly on our side, Loving us and showing us how we can grow even closer to happiness and Love.

Our aim should be to not seek and chase for Love, but to BE IT. This means self-love first. True Love isn’t setting HUGE expectations on someone else that they always make you happy and fulfilled.

True Love is being so full of self-love and the Love of The Uni-verse that you have more than enough Love to hold your own darkness and light and the darkness and light of the other people. True Love is radical acceptance of yourself and the person you are in a relationship with.

Looking for someone to complete you is to deny your innate potential to be an already full and integrated being. You are giving someone else a power that only you have.

Also, making someone else the source of your fulfillment means that if they are not having a good day, acting in integrity or desiring to grow, then you are stuck. It’s a giant anchor holding you down.

In relationship, we either grow together or we grow apart. The Uni-verse is constantly guiding us to greater and greater awareness or ourselves and as a result our Highest Potential. Relationships are containers for growth, not containers for proving how much pain you can endure for someone else.

When we make someone else the only thing that completes us, we can easily blame them, but the blame belongs on us for giving them that power in the first place.

Let’s take our power back and take our eyes off of ourselves and our partners and remember the Source from which we came and which we are all apart of right now. We are a drop of water coming home to the beautiful ocean from which we came. In doing so, we can merge into a wave and do far more connected to this Source than we ever could do alone or with another person.