Step out of thoughts of fear and step into a life of greater & greater abundance.

When it comes to personal growth, there are so many topics, ideas, systems, thoughts and paths to choose. Eventually, they will all lead back to this one Truth: what you are seeking is within you.

In my life, I have had three major revelations that have helped me step out of thoughts of fear and lack and step into a life of greater & greater abundance.

Here they are:

1. The Uni-verse will support you in manifesting your Purpose because It created you to do so.

2. Love is where you come from and It is your birthright. It is a basic principle to Love your Creator, Love yourself and Love your fellow sentient beings with the same Love that you have for yourself.

3. Things always work out for the best.

By slowly realizing these principles above, my life has gone from itty-bitty tiny to huge.

If it’s true that the Uni-verse will support me in my purpose, then that means any thoughts I have and actions I do that are not aligned with my purpose are actually making my life harder, more stressful and less full. All those fearful thoughts of lack, all those doubting thoughts about whether I will be taken care of or not have never proved to be true. What I had to do was sacrifice my ego’s desires and let go of any past identity of what I thought I “deserved” and instead, accept the gifts of my journey. This doesn’t mean you will live in a mansion after the first week of living your purpose. For all you could know that you may end up living from a dormitory to a one bedroom flat. But at the end you will surely end up saying “It was worth it I knew the seeds I was sowing would grow. And I was supported and I am still supported. From fragile beginnings the roots of my journey have begun to support a stronger hold on Life.

You WILL be supported, not in the way that you want to be, but in the way that you need to be.

If it’s true that Love is where you came from and that you gotta love your fellow beings the way you love yourself, it’s important that you love yourself; because if you hate yourself, then that means you’ll hate your neighbours, too. So it’s vitally important that you get to work on loving you. Eventually as you grow in the Love for yourself, you will be more and more full, and be able to share that love with others.

If you believe that things always work out for the best, then this will give you an empowered point of view through which to interpret the events of your life. When things go “wrong”, you’ll know it’s for the best and then make the best of it. This point of view is sooooo important to incorporate into your life. If you do, you will be able to overcome any challenge. And challenges will come on The Path.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on these principles; they have helped me through good times and bad times. I believe if you incorporate them into your life, they will help you live your dreams, too.


Thank You.

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Why Rape ?

It has has become a constant source of worry now-a-days ,specially in India where rape crimes are increasing day by day ,even after the massive protest and condemnation of such brutal crimes happening against women in India at Delhi and Mumbai particularly .Even though government and administration are taking steps to prevent such crimes from happening (according to governmental sources ),but it seems that those measures are having opposite affect on these criminals.

Everyday as I read newspaper I find at-least three or four rape incidents that happened in some part of the country .In recent times ,incidents like rapes have increased far more rapidly than before ,even though society is changing with the passage of time ,people are no longer as orthodox as they used to be ,except for interior areas of Indian states .

Though I know most people would suggest that women should leave such country like India where women are no more safe but I think running away from a problem is not its solution .If we would drop our courage and hope for change in this kind of situation than no place is safe for us .

What really bothers me is what makes these criminals to do such heinous crimes like rape or brutalizing a women ,why can’t they control themselves ,what actions can effectively prevent criminals from doing these crimes .

According certain sources it is believed that porn ,low moral values or psychopathic mental conditions are responsible for encouragement of such crimes .Should all rapist be considered as mentally ill people who need treatment or they be executed with death sentence .

I researched multiple views for all of you guys who know about this matter and measures ,to understand what could be done in order to prevent these crimes from happening.

I have a friend who has a degree in psychology but did not focus on rape in particular, well he highlighted me with some key points.

Regardless, what I can tell you is that anybody can rape anyone, that there is no particular “type” of person who becomes a rapist. This is probably not comforting to you, since you worry about your safety and would like to prevent these terrible things from happening.

Gang rapes are a particular kind of rape (can involve group dynamics and sort of a mob mentality) and are different from general kind of rape, one that might happen in a normal relationship between boys and girls or even married couple.

Regardless, it’s not like one day men woke up and decided to rape women in India. In other words, it’s hard to speculate about the reasons (be it psychological, sociological, or political) why suddenly there is more rape and more reporting of rape,without someone taking the time and really studying these events.

However, regardless of the cause, the best way to prevent these is somewhat similar to the best way you can prevent crime in general. Don’t go to deserted places or bad neighborhoods or out real late at night. If you have to, go with friends you can trust, tell others (parents, other grownups) where you’re going and when you’ll be back. Be aware of your environment and trust your intuition so if you see a group of guys buzzing about and being rude or whatever, don’t wait till it escalates, just leave the scene. Dress properly. If you see some violence, call the police or other people and don’t get personally involved.

So much focus can be put on gang rapes but many times people are raped by “loved ones”, by friends, lovers, and so forth, mainly because they trust them or find it hard to say no to them or feel guilty or whatever. But whatever the situation, it does not help being paranoid about it either. Sometimes some cases become publicized for whatever reason and then there is this general sense of panic.

Think of it as driving or riding a bike. You don’t want to drive/ride as if anybody around might ram their bike/car into yours any minute. That’s be scary! But at the same time you don’t want to be so distracted as to not hear a car’s horn and get run over. Be aware, but don’t be scared.

Dress codes for women won’t stop rape, having educated and respectful men with accountability will.

We need less lessons for young women and more lessons for young men. We need more rape convictions and more counseling for both victims and perpetrators.What we don’t need is more victim blaming.

Unrequited love that truly exists is towards ourselves

I had a thought yesterday; it was: “The only unrequited love that truly exists is towards ourselves.”

It seems, so much in our lives, we can experience this sense of love unreturned to us by those we want it from.

You’re a lover; I’m a lover; we’re all lovers here in this universe. Deep down all we want is to love and be loved in return. That’s the true pulse of the human condition.

Regarding romantic love specifically, I find it funny (and at times SUPER GNARLY PAINFUL) the dance we all dance. It’s like Girl A likes Boy B, but Boy A likes Girl A, and Girl B likes Boy A. I know, that confused me, too. I just think it’s funny how many times we desire the one that doesn’t want us, or that isn’t the best one for us. And yet, at the same time, we have little to no interest in people who desire us. This obviously isn’t how it always is, but when I’m in Los Angeles, I find this trend running rampant.

It’s really easy to get bummed when someone you really like in that way doesn’t like you back in that way. You know what I’m talking about – you desire them and they think of you only as a friend. Yeah – the friend zone. It happens to the best of us, guys and girls. And, not only that, we are also perpetrators of putting people who like us in the friend zone. It’s a two-way street.

As we dance, the key is to remember who you are. Unrequited love from someone can be a bummer for sure, but I don’t think that actually exists. Why? It’s not because I have never been the recipient of unrequited love; quite the contrary – it’s familiar territory (being on both sides, actually).

When we forget to Love Ourselves, when we forget The Uni-verse is on our side and wants us to thrive, when we forget that we are co-creators of our lives with The Uni-verse, then it’s easy to feel unrequited love and have it really affect you. But, I believe that the unrequited love we are feeling isn’t from the other person who we desire – it’s actually from ourselves.

When we love ourselves, we remember that rejection is protection. When we love ourselves, we are careful with whom we give our hearts to. When we love ourselves, we see every event of our lives as lessons and know that there are no shortages in The Uni-verse. We know that if it doesn’t work out with that someone you had your eye on, or that job you really wanted, something greater is on the way.

When we love ourselves and are filled with this love, it’s nearly impossible to feel unrequited love from someone else. It’s only when we have given that person power over our lives and control over our emotional well-being that we can feel unrequited love from them. Feeling unrequited love from someone is a symptom of low self-esteem and a misalignment with your power.

So, if you’re feeling this way, take your power back today. Put your trust in the things that The Uni-verse has in store for you. Let go a little and see what’s next. There is no shortage in The Uni-verse. There is someone perfect for you out there and they will find you as you become more and more of your authentic self.

When you are feeling the low vibrations of unrequited love, don’t go chasing after it from other people. STOP, check in within yourself and be still. If you seek out the path of trying to fill yourself up from other people or substances, you will only make it worse. Take care of yourself. Do you! Stay in your power and do things that nurture your heart and soul.

This is what I mean when I say, “The only unrequited love that truly exists is towards ourselves.” When we love ourselves, we are not seeking others to fill us and we are free to detach and welcome in the perfect person in the perfect time. And in the meantime, we fill ourselves up so that we have the serenity and joy – so we can step into savoring the waiting, instead of dreading it.

Feeling unrequited love today?

Take your power back, love yourself and watch it go away.

Keep An Open Mind

Keeping an open mind is one of the true keys to happiness and success.

One of My teacher, once told me that “everyone is a beginner to their next step”…

This was so profound to me. It reminds me of the great school of thought, which tells us that the path to enlightenment begins with the beginners mind. Or the Theological wisdom, which reminds us that if we wish to enter the Kingdom of Heaven we must think like a child.

When you are new, like a baby, you are flexible and open. Being stiff is a sign of old age and death.

This has nothing to do with age. Flexibility and openness are a choice. You can be stiff in a young body or flexible in an old body.

But, if we are to engage life and learn, grow, give, share and rip away the layers and beliefs that hold us back from being simply ourselves, newness is the key.

How do you be new? If you ever hear the voice that says, “I know this already” – you are being stiff (aka dead). If you ever hear the voice that says, “All men or women are (fill in the blank)” you are being stiff (aka dead). If you hear the voice that says, “I’ll never be, do or have (fill in the blank) – you are being dead. This list goes on and on.

The goal is to renew our mind through prayer, meditation, yoga, community and purpose, so that each and every moment, we are open and available to life and The Uni-verse being new.

In this state of openness and receptivity, we actually allow ourselves to be reborn. We are reborn out of the death of the thoughts that held us back. We are reborn to be able to be in a new, healthier body, job, relationship, career or business.
In my opinion, one of the greatest spiritual commandments is, “Behold, I make all things new.”

We are starting to see that the nature of reality is far different than we could ever imagine. At the smallest level, particles are appearing and disappearing so fast, we can’t notice them. But literally in every moment, we are brand new beings. The world is brand new – disappearing and reappearing.

But – what remains stiff, inflexible and dead are the beliefs and patterns that prevent us from feeling or experiencing this newness.

Over the last year or so, I have been so blown away with how my life has become brand new. The Love that this Life as a teacher and I share is so profound, the continued expansion of my thoughts through self learning, the new places I am traveling, the book that I am finishing and all the new friends and people I am meeting – being able to meet the people that inspired me – all this is brand new from the place of deep addiction and depression I found myself in only a few short years ago.

My life changed because my mind changed. Because I believed it was possible, even though I didn’t know HOW it was possible.

Our job is not to know how. Our job is to be open, receptive and focus on why. Why must I change?

Because if I don’t, I will miss out on beauty, love, success, excitement, family, friends, success, connecting to The Divine, being of service and truly being able to give my gift.

I didn’t feel that it was possible, but I did my best to believe it was possible and, no matter how much my heart ached, to know that it could be reborn brand new. Perhaps not all at once, but perhaps slowly over time. I wanted to find out if it was possible or not.

Today, I know that it’s possible. My life has become the vision that seemed SO impossible.

It starts by a change of mind. It starts with the belief, “I know it doesn’t seem possible, but if it did, what would I think?”

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No faffing!!!

A friend of mine who is a brilliant, dedicated and respected teacher here in Mumbai once said as she was pacing around her house, “I’m faffing again!”

And I thought to myself – what is faffing? She saw the puzzled look on my face and said, “I faff a lot – I waste time doing nothing as a form of resistance. And I don’t even know that I’m doing it sometimes!”

According to the Urban Dictionary faffing means to aimlessly waste time doing useless tasks. Ouch!

I do that all the time.

Here’s how I faff…
1. Social media addiction
2. Email addiction
3. Social media commenting addiction
4. Cleaning up too much when I should be writing
5. Taking on projects that don’t scare me, while avoiding soul projects that I know I should be doing
6. Living my life based on what other people think
7. Did I mention social media addiction?
8. Eating comfort food when I should be creating

Those are just to name a few.

We avoid our calling and, as a result, our lives by faffing our lives away. We faff every day and stay “busy” but it’s a false sense of accomplishment. I’m amazed at how much can get done when I stop faffing and actually focus on what matters. I am also amazed at how much I do that doesn’t really matter – or doesn’t matter as much as the real soul’s calling that I am meant to do.

And I suppose at the root of all this faff is fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of change. Fear of rejection. Fear of life getting worse instead of better. Fear of fear. And fear of fearing fear.

It’s all fear and quite frankly it’s all pure crap.

To faff is to miss out on life. To faff is to deny your soul. To faff is to ignore your Creator and make meaningless tasks seem important and important tasks seem impossible.

You were not born to faff. You were born to sail. To expand.

To grow. To live a bigger, brighter version of your life. And to do this – look at where you faff and turn your faffing into fear tackling. It’s almost 2013 end for heaven’s sake – isn’t it time we stopped faffing and started living?

Food for thought….

Chaos is Inevitable

When you start living your life from the inside out, when you take your power back from people, places and things, when you start trusting The Uni-verse – there is one very important thing to keep in mind: chaos happens.

But here’s the thing about chaos – when you’re on The Path, what seems like chaos is many times Grace in Action.
You see, we expect this great big vast and intelligent Uni-verse to act according to human reason. But the problem with that is what we humans actually know about The Uni-verse is so limited compared to what there is to know. So, many times we see chaos when actually it is just part of a greater and wiser order that we do not understand.

Also, because we don’t know what’s going to happen next in our lives, it is Spiritually incorrect to assume the worst when you perceive chaos happening in your life. The Uni-verse speaks in chaos, change and Grace many times appears to be chaos, and right before revelation is usually some form of ego death.
What does that mean?

It means that for us to understand and come into harmony with greater Truths about ourselves and The Uni-verse, our old perceptions AND fears have to be shed (aka die) for new insight to come. Knowing this cycle can be SO helpful when you are going about the business of manifesting your dreams, creating a loving relationship or simply just signing up for the adventure that should be your life.

When you lean into your faith (both in yourself and in The Uni-verse), you invite chaos (aka a higher order of living) into your life. It is part of our calling on The Path to develop emotional fitness and proper insight to see that when things “seem” to be going “wrong” or “changing”, not to freak out and apply some doomsday meaning to these events of our lives. Instead, we step back, observe and know that in any seeming change, crisis or chaos is both potential risk AND potential opportunity.

It is those of us who have trained our mind to see and trust the bigger picture (knowing that The Uni-verse is FOR us and never against us) that benefit most from change, chaos and crisis. It is Spiritually backwards to ask for an easy life that works out perfectly AND desire faith in yourself and The Uni-verse. Faith counts the MOST when the sh*t is hitting the fan.

So today, in your life, whether it be financially, romantically, emotionally, spiritually or any aspect of your life, if there is chaos or change, just decide that The Uni-verse is working on your behalf and choose to assign a constructive and positive meaning to what’s happening in your life. Ask The Uni-verse to reveal the Grace of this moment to you. See the opportunity instead of the fear; decide that you have the power to not only make the best of this situation, but to actually make a better life for yourself BECAUSE of this situation.

For your dreams to come true it’s vital that you learn to be flexible enough to adapt to and make the best of change. In fact, don’t just make the best of change and the unexpected, get EXCITED by it!