What do you fear?

What do you fear?

I watched a child in the mall yesterday as she was kicking and screaming. Her parents were trying their best to calm her down.

I also watched the people passing by them. Some shook their heads and saw the child as a spoiled, “give me what I want now,” child. Others paused and offered a few kind words to both the child and parents.

“You’re such a beautiful little girl. Such a beautiful girl shouldn’t cry,” one lady said.

“Don’t be so sad. We all have bad days,” added another.

“I think she’s a spoiled brat,” I heard one whisper to a friend.

None of themwere right. The child was neither spoiled nor having a bad day.

She was afraid.

The parents told me afterwards that someone carrying a coat scared her. She’s afraid of dogs. The coat looked like a big dog.

They went on to explain that it is a challenge for them to go places. Friends have dogs, neighbors nearby walk their dogs down the street.

So, you can imagine what it’s like to try to get through a day without sending your child into a panic.

I can remember, as a child walking up the steps at night I would get the feeling that someone or some thing was going to grab my feet. So, I ran most of the time.

I’ll admit that occasionally as an adult I do the same thing.

Fear – what you fear the most in life, owns you, controls you, limits you.

I struggle with the fear of heights, but I fight it. My wife sent me off in a glider on my 60th birthday. I was fine. I was better than fine, I was great!

If I could have one foolish child-like wish come true it would be to have the ability to fly like a bird.

The truth is fear can be debilitating. Fear cripples many, limits abilities to enjoy even the simplest things in life and in some cases stops people from having medical procedures that could prevent major health issues.

Fear also crushes dreams.

Sometimes our own fears are imposed on others around us affecting their views and impacting their ability to live life fully…all in the name of love, concern and good parenting.

Someone once used the acronym F.E.A.R as False Evidence Appearing Real.

I’m not sure that applies to all fear. One might have had a bad experience with a dog and now that fear is real, relevant in their lives.

But, I think the kind of fear I believe we can deal with is the fear that reinforces doubt.

In particular poor self image issues either self imposed or wrongfully fed to you by others in your life or the world in general.

Fear and doubt are enemies of faith. They are the enemy thatyou permit to control your decisions, even when you declare your faith in God.

You give them power over you. The enemy doesn’t want you to be happy, successful, or faithful. The enemy wantsyou to fail and stay there. Why?

Because successful, happy, healthy people give credit for their happiness to God even when they face their fears they declare their belief in the God who fears nothing.

“Fear prevents, faith prevails!”

Bob Perks

Bob Perks is an inspirational author and speaker. Bob’s new book I Wish You Enough has been published by Thomas Nelson Publishers. A collection of stories based on his Eight Wishes expressed below. Available through your favorite bookstore or online. Visit www.BobPerks.com

“I Wish You Enough!”
(c) 2001 Bob Perks
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough “Hello’s” to get you through the final “Goodbye.”

 

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Relationships in Turmoil

Yesterday Evening I had a chat with a friend who has a common  issue like many others , about forgetting the past and let it go. It is natural. People find it hard to let things go. While for some it may just take a few minutes or even a few seconds to let things go while for some it may take months – years even.

It is funny how a simple emotion “love” can cling onto your heart so strong that one forgets about all other things in life apart from his/her affection for the loved one.

People are not to be blamed for their situation at all, nobody can be questioned as to why did they fall into such a situation or what lead them to this day. It all happens, and it happens for the best.

Breaking up can be very healthy , and mutual , again it all depends on both people how well they handle the situation. If one of the mates is more emotional than the other, this leads to a state where the other person is left in a state whereby he does not know what to do.

There is no rulebook or a Guide to a healthy break up , no book an teach you how to overcome a breakup , it’s all up to you , how you train your mind to “FORGET” & “Forgive”

This may sound funny to most of you , but the key element of a breakup likes in Forgiveness more than the Forgetting factor. One needs to forgive first of all himself/herself of hurting themselves and their so to become “EX”, to train their heart to forgive the other person & after that , just be “IRONMAN” or “IRONWOMAN” as i term. You have to let it all go.

This does sound rude, but unless you do not let it all go away, nothing changes. you will keep looking at those old memories and fragments of your haunting past which will keep you depressed for a long time, and in some extreme cases, it even leads to suicide.

So remember to Forgive & Forget … Move on!  🙂

A nice time shared at bankside

Today I sat at Bankside,London. It was an amazing experience, Have felt this amazing moment of happiness and serenity in very few places, and this is one of them. I feel everyone should explore and find a place where they can just adore nature and it’s beauty , by the simple look of it, giving mental peace and joy, bringing a smile on the face.

I really enjoyed my day 🙂