There is Beauty & Grace in Every Loss

I believe that we have many different soul mates in each lifetime. And a soul mate doesn’t have to be just a lover.

Friends, family, pets – all these can be soul mates.

And specifically when it comes to romance, I also believe we have many different soul mates and each person’s path is utterly unique. I can’t even begin to imagine what you have been born to learn, create and give to this world – that is between you and The Uni-verse. What I can say with 100% certainty is that the energy of Love never changes, though many times the face of Love does.

When we get hurt, it doesn’t matter what the hurt is or where it comes from; it’s natural to want to close off to shut down and to think that there is no way that the future could be better than the past. And if we don’t have a vision for a compelling future, then we start to slowly die. If you’ve lost someone that you love, just because you can’t see the horizon right now, doesn’t mean there isn’t a magical moment that is there for you, beginning with right now.

The story that we don’t think there will ever be anyone better is a very convenient story I see many people use as an excuse to shut down and not risk loving and, most importantly, hurting again. But we have to be open to let Love in, which means we also let in the pain. They go together. Being open to Love means we risk being open to pain. But the seeker on the Path doesn’t shut down knowing this – no, they open up and become even stronger! We are being called not to give up on Love, but give in to Love and become stronger by doing so.

If you’ve lost someone close to you, where is the gift in his or her death? What is he/she teaching you even now? And what new story would you like to tell to be open to love again? This is our Path and it’s beautiful, even with the pain. The pain helps us grow and it pushes us towards letting go and seeing even this moment as perfect. Below the anger, the sadness and the hurt – there is a quivering silent knowing that all is as it should be.

I have lost people close to me ; I’ve had friends abandon me and businesses fail.

But those moments do not define me. What defines me is what I do about those moments and choose to live my life in a way that honors those that have moved on. Know that rejection is redirection and see failures as the ultimate learning experiences. A moment of tragedy can happen and does happen to us, but the real tragedy isn’t what happened – the real tragedy is getting stuck in what happened and choosing to give up on life. Life, my friends, is for the living – we are here to shine, to give our gifts and to be the presence of Love on the planet.

No pain is greater than the Love that is within us – and when we tap into that, we will forever be connected to those that mean the most to us, whether they are with us or not.


Are we really Living?

Seconds, Minutes, hours, Days, Years, pass by , You’re born , admitted into a school , a religious school too perhaps if your family insists, bombarded with thoughtless thoughts into your head, to make you think the way they think.

Soon you graduate, go to college, then a university, find a job after you graduate, work hard enough to get promoted, get married, have children, Start saving for their education, send them to a school, retire, now you think about living , when most of your life is over……

I Was having a conversation an hour ago with a friend who asked me ” are we really living? ” and I could not answer even though I knew the answer , that “we’re not” , basically we all are tied up in a system , where from the time you open up your eyes , you are made to think the way the society thinks, the rest is all a sin or forbidden.

Poems, Movies, Songs, Acts, have been on display for centuries trying to portray the frustration of living in a world filled with beliefs, superstition, faith,rituals, ceremonies, law & order, taxes & competition, etc, which just makes you hypnotized.

Everyone of us is like a mini program , or like a software being executed, where we calculate our status bar of life and try to push it near the end of each stage attaining the virtual ultimatum.We have started behaving like robots, and those of us who try and think a bit different , are looked at like viruses in the society , who are either quarantined or eradicated or embedded in such forms into the society where the societal parasite just lures onto one’s life making him/her a victim of a torturous life which he cannot escape.

Assuming that death is the only finite explanation of escape from this whole system , just like uninstalling a software from a system.

One may argue by saying that every human does have a so called “Free-Will” but can one live with it ? Is an ongoing debate. One just cannot live without a bank, insurance, etc etc.. and then is soon tied up .

Well there is no finite explanation to this , but I would like to end this topic, with a quote by Kurt Cobain – “We’re so trendy we can’t even escape ourselves.” , I hope this explains a lot for what I tried expressing.At the end of the day, we end up talking & discussing for hours and years about stuff , but very few take a stand, let us all be different for a while. Let’s Live!