SERENITY

Serenity

 

Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom.  It is the result of long and patient effort in self-control.  Its presence is an indication of ripened experience, and of a more than ordinary knowledge of the laws and operations of thought.

A man becomes calm in the measure that he understands himself as a thought-evolved being, for such knowledge necessitates the understanding of others as the result of thought, and as he develops a right understanding, and sees more and more clearly the internal relations of things by the action of cause and effect, he ceases to fuss and fume and worry and grieve, and remains poised, steadfast, serene.

The calm man, having learned how to govern himself, knows how to adapt himself to others; and they, in turn, reverence his spiritual strength, and feel that they can learn from him and rely upon him.  The more tranquil a man becomes, the greater is his success, his influence, his power for good.  Even the ordinary trader will find his business prosperity increase as he develops a greater self-control and equanimity, for people will always prefer to deal with a man whose demeanor is equable.

The strong, calm man is always loved and revered.  He is like a shade-giving tree in a thirsty land, or a sheltering rock in a storm.  “Who does not love a tranquil heart, a sweet-tempered, balanced life?  It does not matter whether it rains or shines, or what changes come to those possessing these blessings, for they are always sweet, serene, and calm.  That exquisite poise of character which we call serenity is the last lesson of culture; it is the flowering of life, the fruitage of the soul.  It is precious as wisdom, more to be desired than gold—yea, than even fine gold.  How insignificant mere money-seeking looks in comparison with a serene life—a life that dwells in the ocean of Truth, beneath the waves, beyond the reach of the tempests, in the Eternal Calm!”

“How many people we know who sour their lives, who ruin all that is sweet and beautiful by explosive tempers, who destroy their poise of character, and make bad blood!  It is a question whether the great majority of people do not ruin their lives and mar their happiness by lack of self-control.  How few people we meet in life who are well balanced, who have that exquisite poise which is characteristic of the finished character!”

Yes, humanity surges with uncontrolled passion, is tumultuous with ungoverned grief, is blown about by anxiety and doubt.  Only the wise man, only he whose thoughts are controlled and purified, makes the winds and the storms of the soul obey him.

Tempest-tossed souls, wherever you may be, under whatsoever conditions ye may live, know this—in the ocean of life the isles of Blessedness are smiling, and the sunny shore of your ideal awaits your coming.  Keep your hands firmly upon the helm of thought.  In the barque of your soul reclines the commanding Master; He does but sleep; wake Him. Self-control is strength; Right Thought is mastery; Calmness is power.  Say unto your heart, “Peace be still!”

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Everything is God Given

I write a blog about money a few times a year because I think there is a lot of guilt, shame and confusion around money in the spiritual community.

There’s this idea that you can’t be spiritual and rich, or if you are – you have screwed people over to get there.

There’s this idea that you shouldn’t charge for God given talents like intuition or insights.

But – last time I checked, all talents are God given. The talent to play basketball, the talent to write, the talent to sing, the talent to act, or be a doctor – are all God given.

For the talents to be fully realized, we must practice and learn and apply a ton of hard work, but nonetheless the raw talent came pre-installed.

And yet, we seem to have some block around certain types of God given talent.

The idea that a rich person can’t enter the Kingdom of Heaven is widely used to take vows of poverty, but what Jesus meant when He said that was if you WORSHIP money and make it your God, then you’ll never be happy.

But you can have a lot of money and still be focused on The Divine.

You can also not have a lot of money and be so focused on money that you forget your connection to the Divine.

Money, like everything else, is a symbol for energy. That is it.

And the more of it we have, the more we can help ourselves, those that we love and others.

There is nothing spiritual about playing a small money game.

I also don’t believe that when you are a healer or life coach you are charging for the teachings.

All the wisdom teachings are readily available for free on the internet. Anyone who has access to the internet has access to the wisdom of the ages.

When you charge for your services, what you are charging for is your time and the facilitation of the teachings.

Your time and your wisdom are very valuable.

I know people who went to college for years and years and have six figure debts that never learned the things spiritually.

What is that worth?

I believe it’s important to give away scholarships, free content and help those who need it so that personal growth isn’t just something for “the rich.” But I also believe that healers who don’t charge what they are worth are doing themselves a major disservice and as a result, a disservice to their clients.

The guilt and shame around charging money for healing services is a way for many practitioners to play small.

The greater your cup is full, the more you have to give away.

Are you playing small by hiding behind prices you know are too cheap?

Are you scared to step up and play a bigger game?

Are you running yourself ragged and capped at a certain income because you are afraid to raise your rates?

Are you triggered by the rates of other healers?

Don’t you think you are worth investing in? And also being paid well for the value that you add to the world?

What would your life look like if you cast those fears aside and actually did what you knew you had to?

I’m curious.

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Stay connected to who you are!

What does that mean?

It means to remember that at your center you are Love, abundance and joy. You have come here not to be needy and take, but to be full and give away to the world from that place of fullness.

When you remember who you are, the desire to chase, to grasp and to yearn stops. You remember that you are a child of The Uni-verse and were created to fulfill a very special purpose.

You remember that one of the great promises of Life is that you will be provided for as you walk along the path of your dreams. The fearful mind calms and the mind full of Faith emerges.

You remember that you are enough as you are and that nothing can prove otherwise, other than your own admission that you are less than who you really are.

When you remember who you really are, you surround yourself with loving people. You bask in the fellowship of Love and no longer accept or tolerate abuse and hate.

You pull back from judging others and instead keep your eyes on Love and purifying your own desires and intentions.

You line up your thoughts with Love and then the actions and the fruits of Love naturally follow. You let go of the need to control and let The Uni-verse fill in the gaps, because The Uni-verse is very intelligent and knows what you need even more than you do.

When you remember who you really are, you Love yourself and your Creator enough to take care of your body with healthy foods, exercise, yoga and breath. You Love your mind enough to not let it run the show, and instead make time for meditation to calm it down so your Love and Spirit shine through.

When you remember who you are, you embrace challenge and catastrophe with acceptance rather than disdain. You know that with the Light comes the Dark and that both are needed in the dance of Life.

When you remember who you are, you are attractive to those who believe what you believe. You don’t see rejection as bad, but rather as a sorting device keeping unhealthy matches away from you. You naturally and effortlessly find Love because you already embody It.

When you remember who you are, life ceases to become difficult and transforms into an adventure you can’t wait to take.

When you remember who you are, you live your life following your Heart so that when you get to the end, you say: “What a ride!” instead of wondering, “What if I had…?”

Remember who you are today and all this & more will be yours.

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Unrequited love that truly exists is towards ourselves

I had a thought yesterday; it was: “The only unrequited love that truly exists is towards ourselves.”

It seems, so much in our lives, we can experience this sense of love unreturned to us by those we want it from.

You’re a lover; I’m a lover; we’re all lovers here in this universe. Deep down all we want is to love and be loved in return. That’s the true pulse of the human condition.

Regarding romantic love specifically, I find it funny (and at times SUPER GNARLY PAINFUL) the dance we all dance. It’s like Girl A likes Boy B, but Boy A likes Girl A, and Girl B likes Boy A. I know, that confused me, too. I just think it’s funny how many times we desire the one that doesn’t want us, or that isn’t the best one for us. And yet, at the same time, we have little to no interest in people who desire us. This obviously isn’t how it always is, but when I’m in Los Angeles, I find this trend running rampant.

It’s really easy to get bummed when someone you really like in that way doesn’t like you back in that way. You know what I’m talking about – you desire them and they think of you only as a friend. Yeah – the friend zone. It happens to the best of us, guys and girls. And, not only that, we are also perpetrators of putting people who like us in the friend zone. It’s a two-way street.

As we dance, the key is to remember who you are. Unrequited love from someone can be a bummer for sure, but I don’t think that actually exists. Why? It’s not because I have never been the recipient of unrequited love; quite the contrary – it’s familiar territory (being on both sides, actually).

When we forget to Love Ourselves, when we forget The Uni-verse is on our side and wants us to thrive, when we forget that we are co-creators of our lives with The Uni-verse, then it’s easy to feel unrequited love and have it really affect you. But, I believe that the unrequited love we are feeling isn’t from the other person who we desire – it’s actually from ourselves.

When we love ourselves, we remember that rejection is protection. When we love ourselves, we are careful with whom we give our hearts to. When we love ourselves, we see every event of our lives as lessons and know that there are no shortages in The Uni-verse. We know that if it doesn’t work out with that someone you had your eye on, or that job you really wanted, something greater is on the way.

When we love ourselves and are filled with this love, it’s nearly impossible to feel unrequited love from someone else. It’s only when we have given that person power over our lives and control over our emotional well-being that we can feel unrequited love from them. Feeling unrequited love from someone is a symptom of low self-esteem and a misalignment with your power.

So, if you’re feeling this way, take your power back today. Put your trust in the things that The Uni-verse has in store for you. Let go a little and see what’s next. There is no shortage in The Uni-verse. There is someone perfect for you out there and they will find you as you become more and more of your authentic self.

When you are feeling the low vibrations of unrequited love, don’t go chasing after it from other people. STOP, check in within yourself and be still. If you seek out the path of trying to fill yourself up from other people or substances, you will only make it worse. Take care of yourself. Do you! Stay in your power and do things that nurture your heart and soul.

This is what I mean when I say, “The only unrequited love that truly exists is towards ourselves.” When we love ourselves, we are not seeking others to fill us and we are free to detach and welcome in the perfect person in the perfect time. And in the meantime, we fill ourselves up so that we have the serenity and joy – so we can step into savoring the waiting, instead of dreading it.

Feeling unrequited love today?

Take your power back, love yourself and watch it go away.

Keep An Open Mind

Keeping an open mind is one of the true keys to happiness and success.

One of My teacher, once told me that “everyone is a beginner to their next step”…

This was so profound to me. It reminds me of the great school of thought, which tells us that the path to enlightenment begins with the beginners mind. Or the Theological wisdom, which reminds us that if we wish to enter the Kingdom of Heaven we must think like a child.

When you are new, like a baby, you are flexible and open. Being stiff is a sign of old age and death.

This has nothing to do with age. Flexibility and openness are a choice. You can be stiff in a young body or flexible in an old body.

But, if we are to engage life and learn, grow, give, share and rip away the layers and beliefs that hold us back from being simply ourselves, newness is the key.

How do you be new? If you ever hear the voice that says, “I know this already” – you are being stiff (aka dead). If you ever hear the voice that says, “All men or women are (fill in the blank)” you are being stiff (aka dead). If you hear the voice that says, “I’ll never be, do or have (fill in the blank) – you are being dead. This list goes on and on.

The goal is to renew our mind through prayer, meditation, yoga, community and purpose, so that each and every moment, we are open and available to life and The Uni-verse being new.

In this state of openness and receptivity, we actually allow ourselves to be reborn. We are reborn out of the death of the thoughts that held us back. We are reborn to be able to be in a new, healthier body, job, relationship, career or business.
In my opinion, one of the greatest spiritual commandments is, “Behold, I make all things new.”

We are starting to see that the nature of reality is far different than we could ever imagine. At the smallest level, particles are appearing and disappearing so fast, we can’t notice them. But literally in every moment, we are brand new beings. The world is brand new – disappearing and reappearing.

But – what remains stiff, inflexible and dead are the beliefs and patterns that prevent us from feeling or experiencing this newness.

Over the last year or so, I have been so blown away with how my life has become brand new. The Love that this Life as a teacher and I share is so profound, the continued expansion of my thoughts through self learning, the new places I am traveling, the book that I am finishing and all the new friends and people I am meeting – being able to meet the people that inspired me – all this is brand new from the place of deep addiction and depression I found myself in only a few short years ago.

My life changed because my mind changed. Because I believed it was possible, even though I didn’t know HOW it was possible.

Our job is not to know how. Our job is to be open, receptive and focus on why. Why must I change?

Because if I don’t, I will miss out on beauty, love, success, excitement, family, friends, success, connecting to The Divine, being of service and truly being able to give my gift.

I didn’t feel that it was possible, but I did my best to believe it was possible and, no matter how much my heart ached, to know that it could be reborn brand new. Perhaps not all at once, but perhaps slowly over time. I wanted to find out if it was possible or not.

Today, I know that it’s possible. My life has become the vision that seemed SO impossible.

It starts by a change of mind. It starts with the belief, “I know it doesn’t seem possible, but if it did, what would I think?”

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REDEFINE YOUR LIFE

What story are you telling yourself that is holding you back in life?

What if the TRUTH was that you could be, do or have anything you dreamed of? But what if you also had to face your deepest fear in the process?

What if it were true that we all tell ourselves stories about what’s NOT possible in life because it seems our need for love, connection and certainty is being met by staying small?

What if were true that you could get Love not just from bonding over pain, but bonding over your success and achievement.

Most people are happy for you at first if you shine, but if you shine too brightly, they start to not like you. Not because you have done anything wrong, but because they get jealous of your success – because it is a reflection of their own inner failure.

We tend to get jealous of others when they have something we wish we did – so when WE get successful, we become a target for jealously from others.

This is normal and it’s to be expected. It’s okay for strangers to think a certain way about you, but what if the person or people you Loved most thought this way about you?

That would be a pretty darn good incentive to NOT shine, huh? What if you were stuck in a situation where your family or “tribe” didn’t want you to be too successful; what if they would shame or reject you if you stood out too much? Would you be excited and inspired to shine? Probably not.

Will Smith talks a lot about telling how far you will go in life based on the 5 people you spend the most amount of time with. He also says that you have to be crazy delusional about your success because many people in the world won’t support you and think it’s impossible.

The goal is to shine your Light loudly and proudly. It’s important to understand that people will Love you and bond over your empowerment. It just may mean you have to redefine your current relationships. It also may mean that you have to let go of some, too. Being around toxic people brings us down. Loving and being Loved brings us up.

Many times we get our thoughts and opinions about Life, not from ourselves, but from others, from advertisements or the media. So what thoughts do you have about what’s possible in your life? The thoughts and story you tell about your life WILL come true. Because when we believe something, we ACT on it and that ACTION produces a result.

If you want to live your dreams, if you want to grow and Love and experience life to the fullest, then it’s VITAL that you begin to tell a new and empowering story.

Think your own thoughts and CONSCIOUSLY surround yourself with people who support, approve of and LOVE your empowerment. And then give the same thing to the people in your Life.

We tend to bond over pain and don’t like it when other’s rise. Let’s change that.

Let’s bond over our Love; let’s celebrate each other’s successes and choose to be in partnerships and relationships that build us up instead of keeping us down.

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The Right Person Will Love you for Who You Are

The right person will Love you for who you are, as you are. No change needed. No extra parts wanted. Nothing to be taken away, they will just Love you for you.

Can we have the courage to let this kind of love in? Do we feel as if we are worth it? Many have written in saying – NO – to this statement. We don’t have the courage to let someone love us this way because we do not have the courage to love ourselves this way.

So today, I would like to invite us to practice radical self-love. Love your love handles, love your tallness, love your shortness, love your flaws, love your imperfections, love your quirks, love your grey hair, love your no hair, love your pimples, love your creases, love your everything.

It may not seem realistic to you, but this is the way you are Loved by The Uni-verse, too.

You are worthy of this kind of love, from yourself and from others.

It’s scary to let ourselves be loved this way because we have to let go of the limiting beliefs that have been holding us back. We have to step into a new awareness of ourselves and face the pain of growth.

It’s worth it.

Radically loving ourselves means accepting only the best and leaving behind the rest. Not because we are selfish or judgmental, but because we have become discerning enough to know what and who is good for us and what and who isn’t.

So, if you were going to radically love yourself today, who would you let go of, who would you invite in, what would you start saying to yourself and what would you start saying to others?

We all are worth more thank what we think of ourselves to be.